Please visit the link below to read about the foster care epidemic and how you can help.
Please visit the link below to read about the foster care epidemic and how you can help.
I recently started writing for Conscious Talk magazine.
I’ve also decided to take part in NaNoWriMo.
I’m pretty busy, as you can imagine. But combining these two items, I managed to pull together an article for Conscious Talk magazine.
Click the following link to read about how and why you should participate in NaNoWriMo.
Welcome to Words on Wednesday, a link up for writers on the first Wednesday of each month.
For each link up, I post an optional topic, but you can write about whatever you like as long as it pertains to writing in some way. This includes promoting your work!
The optional topic for today’s Words on Wednesday optional topic is to share your writing success. It can be as huge as signing on with one of the Big Five or as small as receiving a compliment on your work.
Okay, I admit I chose this month’s topic to toot my own horn.
But let me back up. Recently, I’ve been feeling pretty discouraged about my writing. I assume other writers are like me – either positive they’re writing the next best seller or they don’t think Mother Teresa would compliment their work.
But then I got an offer to become part of the Conscious Talk Magazine family, which is a new online magazine.
This was a badly needed ego boost.
I will be a columnist for Parenting & Family, Sex & Relationships, Book Reviews, and Writer’s Life. I will also submit poetry from time to time. So, with this job, I have a wide-reaching, eclectic gig.
As Glinda says in Wicked, “I couldn’t be happier.”
I look forward to hearing all about your success stories!
I started this link-up to create a support system for writers. With that in mind, please read and comment on at least one other post (suggest the one linked up before yours). The more you participate, the more our writing community will grow! Sharing the link up with your writing friends is another great way to meet other writers.
Because WordPress.com doesn’t support linkup programs, please paste the link to your blog post into the comment section below. Or, if you don’t have time to write a complete blog post, share on Twitter and use the hashtag #WordsOnWednesday.
Welcome to Words on Wednesday, a link-up for writers on the first Wednesday of each month.
Each month I post an optional topic, but you can write about whatever you like as long as it pertains to writing in some way. This includes promoting your work!
The optional topic for today’s Words on Wednesday: Share your favorite writing quote or meme.
It can be a quote directly about writing or one that inspires your writing life. It can be funny or serious. It can be about writing, revising, inspiration, creation, or anything else writing-related.
After you share your quote/meme, tell us why it’s your favorite and how it influences your writing life. Here are just a few ideas:
My quote is: Writing is the painting of the voice ~ Voltaire
This is my favorite writing quote for two reasons:
I look forward to reading your favorite quotes!
I started this link-up to create a support system for writers. With that in mind, please read and comment on at least one other post (suggest the one linked up before yours). The more you participate, the more our writing community will grow! Sharing the link-up with your writing friends is another great way to meet other writers.
Because WordPress.com doesn’t support linkup programs, please paste the link to your blog post into the comment section below.
Dear Birth Father,
You often get the shaft because I don’t talk about you often, especially compared to their birth mother.
I wonder, does that bother you?
I’m sorry – I don’t mean to minimize the importance of you in my daughters’ lives.
You see, it’s easier to talk about their birth mother when explaining this whole adoption thing. She carried them in her “tummy” and although they don’t yet know the details of how a baby gets from inside her to the outside world, they do understand she gave birth to them.
Let’s face it, it’s pretty black and white: Daughters, you came out of her, you are part of her.
I’m not sure how to make the connection between you and them until they learn The Facts of Life.
And I’m not ready yet to have that talk with them…
Another reason I don’t talk about you much: I don’t know you as well. In fact, we’ve only met a handful of times. And aside from only one of those times, I don’t think I was getting to know the Real You; I think I was talking to the This is Who I Want You to See.
I don’t blame you for that – it’s probably how you survived your dysfunctional family, the foster homes, and your years in prison.
My third reason: It’s difficult to initiate conversation when you don’t know the topic. When the girls ask me questions about you, most of the time I don’t know the answers.
I can tell them their birth mother’s favorite color is turquoise but for all I know, you’re color blind.
I wish I could pass on more information about the other half of them – the half you’ve contributed – but I can’t.
Perhaps someday you will meet them and tell them your favorite color. Perhaps I, too, will learn your favorite color.
I hope someday I get to know you, the Real You, and love you with the same complexity I love their birth mother.
But until that time comes, please know I hold you in my heart and honor your role in their lives as best I can.
Welcome to the second Words on Wednesday, a linkup the first Wednesday of each month.
Each month I will post an optional topic, but you can write about whatever you like as long as it pertains to writing in some way. This includes promoting your work!
Today’s optional topic is to share some of your writing. This can be a short story, a poem, a longer WIP (work in progress), and even an opportunity to promote your published work.
I’m going to share a snippet of my current WIP, a memoir about adopting through foster care. As of now, the title is Born in My Heart: A Bittersweet Adoption Blessing but I’ve been thinking about changing the title. If you’d like to give me some input, visit my prior blog post to see the options and Gimme your opinion!
Here is my post for today:
All Stitched Up and Nowhere to Go
August 2008: I wonder if I would have accepted Carole’s request to be Ruth’s birth coach if I’d known the amount of pain it would cause me. I’d like to think the experience and knowledge that I helped another would outweigh the pain. The truth is that I’m not sure I would have done it.
Aside from the quiet hum of the car’s engine, a heavy silence fills the air. Andrew and I are driving to the hospital to pick up Ruth and take her to the empty apartment she calls home.
I haven’t felt like myself since witnessing Paige’s birth a few days prior. An undercurrent of emotions rises into a tsunami of tears when I think about Ruth and Paige.
I don’t know what’s wrong with me, why Ruth’s situation weighs on my shoulders. Yes, I am a sensitive person: I cannot watch the news without tears, cannot bear the thought of abandoned animals being euthanized, want to make a difference in the world by adopting a foster child.
But why do I care so much about a virtual stranger who has no one to blame but herself for the direction her life has taken?
I look at Andrew out of the corner of my eye. Has he noticed my tangled web of emotions?
“Here we are,” Andrew says as he pulls into the loading zone in front of the hospital. It’s the same place we picked up Eli after his five days in the NICU. There are those inexplicable feelings again. I am sad for Ruth because her baby is staying behind in the NICU, even though it was her poor choices that put Paige there.
I leave Andrew in the car and check in at the nurses’ station. “I’m here to pick up Ruth, in room 225.”
“Will Ruth be staying with you?”
“Umm, no…” The thought never occurred to me.
The nurse’s eyes pierce mine. “She cannot be alone. C-section is a major surgery. She needs to be on bed rest and should only get up to use the bathroom.”
Unprepared for the nurse’s vehement onslaught, I stumble over my words. “I’m only here as a favor. I don’t really know her -”
“Can she stay with anyone else while she recuperates?”
I doubt she can stay with Carole while Payton is living there because CPS is involved. My mind shuffles through our friends, Carole’s friends, church friends. Ruth’s solitary set of flowers from me flashes through my mind. Does Ruth have any friends?
My heart breaks as I realize how lonely an addict’s life is and that we’re her only option.
I started this linkup to create a support system for writers. With that in mind, please read and comment on at least one other post (suggest the one linked up before yours). The more blogs you visit, the more our writing community will grow! Sharing the linkup with your writing friends is another great way to meet other writers.
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I wanted to be the homemade chocolate chip cookie mom. Before the children were placed with us I practiced. I tried all different recipes. I used different ingredients. Organic flour, cake flour, semi-sweet chocolate chips and dark chocolate chips. I practiced making cookies from scratch like it was my job. Then I brought batches of […]
Excellent post by Herding Chickens… Of course, her posts are always excellent: encouraging, humorous and wise.
My daughters are in camp this week so I’ve been busting my butt to edit my memoir. My brain is fried and I’m convinced my eyeballs are going to fall out any minute.
Due to said fried brain and eyeballs hanging precariously in their sockets, this blog post will be short.
In addition to editing, I’ve been working on my book proposal. In How to Write A Book Proposal by Michael Larsen, he gives four golden rules for creating the title to your book, three of which I’ve listed below.*
This got me thinking – should I test my previously trashed memoir titles on social media?
Side Note: I tried to create a Twitter poll with the choices but I exceeded the measly 140 character count for each choice.
So I’m requesting feedback on alternative memoir titles from writers, readers, adoptive and birth parents, adoptees, agents, your cat, the stranger sitting next to you in the coffee shop… You get the idea.
So, without further ado, here are the choices:
Feel free to combine or expand on any of them to create something you think is better.
After making your selection, please tell me the reason for your choice.
Thank you for helping me achieve my dreams to become a published writer.
* The fourth one: use your models as guides. I admit that I have no idea what he means by this.
The other day, I read and participated in a Twitter conversation about adoption trauma.
Here’s the background of the conversation:
The person who retweeted this article disagreed. He works as a developmental psychologist with children affected by abuse and neglect, who enter the foster care system. His assertion was that adoption heals trauma.
Of course, this is a highly emotional subject and as you can imagine, some strong words were exchanged. I’m not writing this post to get into a debate or piss anyone off, but share my point of view.
Rather, this Twitter exchange got me thinking about adoption and trauma, so much so that I’ll probably post more thoughts on this subject.
But before going any further, we need to define trauma:
According to the English Oxford Dictionary trauma is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience.
As a foster-adopt mother, I get a bad taste in my mouth when I hear someone say adoption is trauma. I am raising two girls, both of whom have experienced trauma through neglect, intrauterine drug exposure, and perhaps other adverse early childhood experiences. I spend each day trying to undo their subconscious reactions to the trauma they lived through.
But when someone says adoption/being adopted is a distressing experience, I don’t have that knee-jerk reaction. I
am willing want to follow up with “Why do you say that?” or “What do you mean by that?”
I’m not advocating anyone change the words they use to describe their adoption experience, but rather we all try to understand the meaning behind the words.
After all, we’re all in this together.
Welcome to the first Words on Wednesday!
Each month* I will post an optional topic, but you can write about whatever you like as long as it is about writing in some way. This includes promoting your work!
The first topic is Introduce Yourself.
I love to write because it gets everything on the inside, on the outside. The paper is kind of like the pensieve from Harry Potter, and the words are my memories.
OK, now it’s your turn…
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